Shutting down all the lines of communication
I hate to say it, although I have never had the best relationship with my partner, but even in the start when both of us were dating both of us would frequently have disagreements, still both of us wanted to be married; All of us figured once both of us were married things would get better, and in some ways they did, and however, over time things have only gotten worse; I do not suppose appreciate there is any getting through to him.
If there was 1 thing that he was to do that I cannot stand, it would be that he shuts down all lines of communication… What I mean by this is, whenever both of us have an argument he regularly has to right, he cannot handle any kind of criticism and he will undoubtedly refuse to talk about it.
As someone that is a firm believer that talking about what problems both of you are facing will help you understand each other better and bring up some solutions to said problems., his outright refUSAl to talk about anything is immensely frustrating. When there is no communication in a relationship, you will find no solutions. I suppose this all too well from my own experiences. A recent example of a argument both of us had was over the temperature control. When both of us first moved into our modern home together he wanted a modern temperature control, I was great with the outdated dial temperature control however since he wanted a smart temperature control he gave to buy it. Then he did, now he has gotten it into his head that since he pays for it, and that he “did it for me” which he didn’t, that he has full control over our entire heating and cooling system system and I am not allowed to complain about because he “does so much for me” I am starting to see how manipulative the whole thing actually is! You don’t go acting appreciate you’re going to do something nice for someone, only to use it as ammunition against them later. A gift with strings linked isn’t a gift at all.